Change, Change, Change

Who you are today is not who you were yesterday, nor who you will be tomorrow. Change is constant. Change will always happen whether you ask for it or not. Everyday your reality changes. Your values and ideals evolve or diminish. You can't help this, it's just a fact of life and no matter how much you try and run away from it or ignore it, it's still there. Now this may seem cheesy since we're nearing the end of the year, but the end of the year always gets me thinking. You see all the cliché end of the year posts on social media about who you started the year with versus who you are ending your year with. Have you ever thought about who YOU were when the year began and who YOU are now that it's almost over?

 

I know I do every year. Maybe my appearance doesn't change, but everything else sure does. I know that what I expect out of life changes every year. I know my definition of happiness changes with what each year brings me. I know that the way I value my friends changes every year, and I grow a new appreciation for those that stick around year after year. I know that my definition of love has been altered after the last 365 days. Each year I tend to value my parents more and more. I mature within every year, whether I tried to or not.

 

Everyone makes change sound so bad all the time. It isn't. Every year is full of so many struggles that change you. I've had past friendships fail and blamed on the both of us for changing. I've had my parents compare this years me to the me three years ago, because I am a totally different person. We all evolve and grow into a different person each year. Maybe not all at once, but little things day by day allow you to change. Stop resisting the change. Stop trying to be who you use to be. You are who you have become because of the hardships and even luxuries life has given you.

 

I'm not saying that you should wake up January 1st and decide that you're going to be completely different than you were December 31st. I'm just saying love yourself and who you've fought to become. Appreciate this past year and those before it that allowed you to be where you're at now. If you're currently in a hardship try and embrace because one day you will look back on it and be thankful. Lastly, stop ending your year with the clichés about the people you began and ended with. None of that matters, the people are a part of the change and growth as well. Instead of focusing on the people who hurt you, left you, or were just added to your life in a negative energy, credit them as the ones who allowed you to grow as a person and change as a person. So as the year is ending just stop and think about everything you've done In the past year, who you became this year, and about how all the people and things you went through this year that helped you get to where you are right now.

 

 

 

Over and Out,

B

Define You & Friendship

A lot of the time people let society tell them who to be. What color to dye their hair, what shoes to wear, what kinds of clothes to wear. Even as much as what to eat, when to eat it, and where to eat it. Don’t you get so sick of this? Just for once do you wish you could wear those really out of date shows with bright pink leggings without getting weird, disapproving looks. Without having the feeling of insecurity, no matter what you're doing. Yeah, me too.

I've been thinking a lot about what society says is okay and not okay. I've decided that, society shouldn't tell me what is okay and what isn't. I shouldn't have to wake up in the morning and decide what’s okay to wear. I shouldn't have to think about what I'm about to order from Chick-Fil-A and whether or not I'll be judged because of this choice. I shouldn't have to think about what kind of shoes will be appropriate and get me the least judgment from the mean girl cliques at school. I shouldn't have to have these thoughts of what will society accept because society shouldn't be based on all of these material things.

Do you make friends because of your name brand backpack or designer shoes? Or do you make friends because of the style of clothes you wear and the diet of food you are on? No. You make friends because of your personality and who you are on the inside. So why do we value everything else, so much? Why are people judged because of what size clothes you wear, and how long their hair is, what kind of makeup they wear. Or how much makeup they wear. Why do we value all of these things. Because society taught us to value these things rather than the person you are the person the people are as they come along throughout your life.

Do what you want. Wear Ugg boots in ninety degree weather, eat the biggest container of fries you can find after a bad day, wear pink on pink if that makes you happy. Talk to the woman who wears pigtails as an adult, to the woman who wears too much makeup for your liking, or to the woman who you just haven't ever thought about talking to. Judge people a little less, learn people a little more. Stop labeling everyone according to their appearance and your perception of them. Start accepting. Start learning.

Over and Out,

B